greatly improve freopen behavior

1. don't open /dev/null just as a basis to copy flags; use shared
__fmodeflags function to get the right file flags for the mode.

2. handle the case (probably invalid, but whatever) case where the
original stream's file descriptor was closed; previously, the logic
re-closed it.

3. accept the "e" mode flag for close-on-exec; update dup3 to fallback
to using dup2 so we can simply call __dup3 instead of putting fallback
logic in freopen itself.