redesign and simplify vmlock system

this global lock allows certain unlock-type primitives to exclude
mmap/munmap operations which could change the identity of virtual
addresses while references to them still exist.

the original design mistakenly assumed mmap/munmap would conversely
need to exclude the same operations which exclude mmap/munmap, so the
vmlock was implemented as a sort of 'symmetric recursive rwlock'. this
turned out to be unnecessary.

commit 25d12fc0fc51f1fae0f85b4649a6463eb805aa8f already shortened the
interval during which mmap/munmap held their side of the lock, but
left the inappropriate lock design and some inefficiency.

the new design uses a separate function, __vm_wait, which does not
hold any lock itself and only waits for lock users which were already
present when it was called to release the lock. this is sufficient
because of the way operations that need to be excluded are sequenced:
the "unlock-type" operations using the vmlock need only block
mmap/munmap operations that are precipitated by (and thus sequenced
after) the atomic-unlock they perform while holding the vmlock.

this allows for a spectacular lack of synchronization in the __vm_wait
function itself.

optimize locking against vm changes for mmap/munmap

the whole point of this locking is to prevent munmap, or mmap with
MAP_FIXED, from deallocating virtual addresses, or changing the
backing a given virtual address refers to, during certain race windows
involving self-synchronized unmapping or destruction of pthread
synchronization objects. there is no need for exclusion in the other
direction, so it suffices to take the lock momentarily and release it
before making the syscall, rather than holding it across the syscall.

include cleanups: remove unused headers and add feature test macros

process-shared barrier support, based on discussion with bdonlan

this implementation is rather heavy-weight, but it's the first
solution i've found that's actually correct. all waiters actually wait
twice at the barrier so that they can synchronize exit, and they hold
a "vm lock" that prevents changes to virtual memory mappings (and
blocks pthread_barrier_destroy) until all waiters are finished
inspecting the barrier.

thus, it is safe for any thread to destroy and/or unmap the barrier's
memory as soon as pthread_barrier_wait returns, without further
synchronization.

global cleanup to use the new syscall interface

initial check-in, version 0.5.0